Strings?

Sometimes I feel like I can't connect with people. It's like there are strings of interests or things like that that you have, and people with similar strings can connect. They have pretty obvious strings, and they stick to a few that are closest to their self-image. So you know, the skater kids look for other skater kids, the jocks look for other jocks, fans of this music look for other fans, etc. But I feel like I have to many strings, and they're all stretched too thin to every see, unless you look closely, or know that they're there. I can only focus on a few strings at a time, make them more obvious. Every time I do, it seems like I'm showing the wrong strings because I'm not obviously what the people around me would look for in a friend or person to make contact with. I'm trying to hit a mark that I can't every seem to hit because there are to many to aim for. There are too many things that I feel make me up that I can't ever seem to focus on the few that would really represent me. 

I realize this is all based on self-image and fitting in, and that's all very shallow and insecure, but I am insecure, but instead of fitting in with the majority I want to fit in with a minority. Other people's acceptance does mean a lot to me. I still do things for myself (or else I wouldn't have this problem) but I still want to fit into a place, have the security of a label to hide behind. I know I have fantastic friends and I wouldn't trade them for the world, they probably know more about me that I do, and I care about all of them so much. But there's still a part of me that wants pretty much a clone of myself for a friend. But there would be so many problems with that because some of the best qualities in friends are the the ones that you lack. Ugh. I don't really know. This poor mood just set in again and I needed to talk.